Please understand that I want to be as gentle as I can with these responses, especially with this one. Some of us want so badly to feel feminine, to be treated as a woman, that we go to lengths that we didn’t think were possible. His boy clothes are in the closet and then Liz has her own swanky gigantic wardrobe from IKEA, which kicks ass! And do let’s be honest, whatever the reason, omission and withholding information from our partners and then covering it up so they don’t discover it is lying.

I have friends who watch golf for God’s sake and I would rather go to work than sit in front of a television while some man smacks a little white ball around. She then came to my side and lifted her gown over my head, then proceeded to put it in the proper way on me. To her, to many women, it is the same feeling as if you had been with another woman because more than the act itself, it is the violation of her trust and she feels that deeper than you can comprehend.

She grabbed my old truck keys and said, “I knew you were going to be a good wife for me that is why I married you in the first place. Devika chuckled, “Anu, a lady never feels her breasts unless she desperately wants to get intimate, either alone or with a lover. I learned to hide these feminine inclinations and behaviors early because it was quickly obvious to me that they would not be tolerated, leave alone accepted. I was still nervous if she would suspect something but with a smile I opened the door and welcomed her. I put on a lovely pair of black lingerie and then put on a black dress, pantyhose and heels along with a nice shoulder length hair wig.

I love my partner and I just want to know how to become more comfortable with his fetish so that he can feel safe and loved. Some crossdressers tell their wives they are going to Las Vegas for a work convention but in reality they spent a long weekend visiting a makeup artist and wearing a cute dress on the strip.Myself included sometimes, but luckily I’m married to someone who is always asking if I’m okay and making sure I know I can tell him what’s on my mind. And if my daughter wants to wear Batman underoos and play with Hot Wheels, then she will damn well wear Batman underoos and play with Hot Wheels. There is so much insight and wisdom in Liz’ wife’s answers here, and reading them makes it seem so obvious that supportive is the only natural choice. But time and again, I would really feel bad about my crossdressing and then throw out all the clothes and feminine stuffs that I had brought and try to live a normal life.

You may be at a point where you accept that this is who he is and have accepted that this is a part of his life and therefor a part of your relationship, but you may never be “okay” with it. She has been amazingly supportive and embracing of my gender incongruence as an open and proud part of who I am. Marriage is nothing if not a contractual agreement and constant renegotiation in the face of change. More than likely your man has gone his entire life without coming out to someone or talking about this side of him and now the floodgates are open and he is struggling to find the right words to voice his feelings. I had to tell Devika about it some months after our marriage and got a very stern and definite response, “What!I was too scared to go out in public but I did step out in the balcony at night fully dressed from head to toe. It’s possible in a week, in a month, in ten years he may disclose that he also wants to wear, or already does, dresses or makeup.

Just as he may miss your non-verbal cues he may be so absorbed by his crossdressing that it might take several conversations for him to get it. I want to be as gentle as I can be, but there are some crossdressers who are… open to the idea of being with a man when they are dressed up. However, it’s been almost twenty years since I came out to her and the needle on estrogen or transitioning hasn’t twitched at all.That is not the reality of my physique and facial structure and I haven’t the will to suffer long surgical recoveries and drag my wife and I into debt. Again, speaking only for myself, the inclination arose long before I knew or understood sexuality or eroticism. After few years in our marriage, my wife got a job as a business development manager for a very reputed company and her job had her going away on business trips more regularly.