While letting my man be in charge is my personal preference, I believe strongly that it should be a choice. At the same time, like the madam running a brothel, neither my wife nor her mother would be considered an ideal feminist role model. They DO get some explosive orgasms — like hanging on to the edge of the bed howling like they’re trying to hang on to the edge of the world — and if it’s done right — IF it’s done right — there’s no harm at all. My kids are grown and I am now married to a very strong man who makes decisions and let’s me know when I have disappointed him or shown disrespect and in many aspects, he is a reflection of my father, except for the preacher part.

As a result, it is not uncommon for a real life woman these days to have to tell her lover that it’s okay to give her bare ass a good hard slap once in a while. While post-spanking sex is relatively common, often as a consequence of the woman’s total submission to the man’s will, I found my wife was actually horny about 24 hours after a good paddling. Presentation of the bottom – I feel as if I am “willingly sticking out” – I know that I cannot evade or escape the swats. Always over her panties, but then one day asked if I could spank her bare bottom to which she agreed.We frequently spank for fun, but the first and only time I spanked her for ‘real’, she initially consented. As a result, especially when large numbers of young women married right after high school in the late 1950s, these girls sometimes moved from being spanked by their parents to being spanked by their husbands. Now the room is devoid of the smacking sound from the paddle and all that remains is some soft whimpering.

I know plenty of women who wouldn’t be happy with that and plenty of submissive men who do not want any power in their romantic relationships. BTW, when you do something wrong, be the leader, own up to it, and correct it without anyone telling you. I could ask her about how she felt being spanked at her age without fear of opening a can political correctness. You are describing the same feelings as I had – and it’s not about sex, either … in your case, I would try to advance things slowly, and see where it goes… have you read the guide? In the days when unmarried daughters were sometimes spanked by their parents into their 20s, a typical phrase uttered by mothers with hairbrush in hand was, “Are you going to pull down those panties, Young Lady, or am I going to have to do it for you.I’m not sure if I’m the only one but I have such a extremely high pain tolerance that when we first started he would stop because of the condition of my backside before I ever used my safe word, even when it was suppose to be a discipline style. Although I began spanking my wife when we were in college, I’ve never punished her with anal penetration. Even if they publicly oppose it, and protest the very idea of being put over a man’s knee, most women are fascinated by spanking. Wife spanking… As taboo as it seems now, it was once a common practice in American households, right up through the 1950s which was when I got married (1952 to be exact).

Now, while this form of entertainment may attract women viewer to whom advertisers can sell whatever, it does nothing to tell men how to handle a difficult woman in real life. Since FERPA forbids schools from contacting parents, administrators empower police to treat pranks as crimes. She and her husband parted ways recently, and she feels as if the lack of spanking in their relationship might be related to this (sadly). However, reading a “Thank you” in a mail or comment is what keeps me motivated – I have helped various people here and that’s great. We boys used to talk about it but thought nothing of it as it was clear men were in charge and our own backsides were slippered, belted or caned often enough.Part of that role is insisting that you be treated with respect, just as you should treat her with respect. It is likewise important to remember that going bare bottomed over a man’s knee back then wasn’t a novel experience for most women of the era. A few generations back it was not uncommon for a woman to enter into marriage with the understanding that she could be spanked by her husband.