8 Rules of Love: The Sunday Times bestsellling guide on how to find lasting love and enjoy healthy relationships, from the author of Think Like A Monk

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Aku ngeh banget gimana usahaku buat nggak mengulangi pola yg sama dg kekurangan orangtuaku (makanya aku baca buku kayak gini..). Tapi rupanya tanpa sadar aku juga punya standar yg nggak aku cantumin dalam ceklisku. Misalnya nih, karena dibesarkan dg ayah yg hobi ke museum & toko buku, aku jadi nyari partner yg juga bakal enjoy kalau ku ajak ke sana. I want to feel that kind of excitement dg orang yg kusayang & yg sayang dgku. Sparkling 5 stars!!! A huge bravo to Jay Shetty! By far the best author I have discovered this year and 8 rules of love the best book I've read this year. But anyway, aku bukan mau bahas korelasi lagunya JKT48 dg buku ini ya. Aku malah pengin share what key takeaways yg bikin aku menyadari sesuatu dalam hubungan kami. Below, Jay shares 5 key insights from his new book, 8 Rules of Love: How to Find It, Keep It, and Let It Go. Listen to the audio version—read by Jay himself—in the Next Big Idea App. https://cdn.nextbigideaclub.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/02/14101354/BB_Jay-Shetty_MIX.mp3 1. Let yourself be alone. The oldest Hindu scriptures we studied are called the Vedas. They were written on palm leaves in Sanskrit more than five thousand years ago. Most of the palm leaves no longer exist, but the texts have survived. Some of them are even online. Their presence and relevance in the modern world always amaze and inspire me. I’ve been studying the Vedas for sixteen years now, and for the three years I lived as a monk I studied them deeply. When I saw the practical and accessible wisdom hidden within them, I started sharing these messages and insights with people around the world through podcasts, books, and videos. A big part of my work today is coaching individuals and couples and training others to do the same. This work has allowed me to certify more than two thousand coaches, all of whom use a curriculum I developed that is rooted in Vedic principles.

The advice isn't actually bad. But it's superficial and has no nuance. love yourself, be comfortable with yourself, fight healthily, don't be in abusive relationships, love not just your partner, support your partner. WOW. A lot of people say, “We just don’t love each other anymore, we’ve fallen out of love.” What that means is that love wasn’t enough. There were character traits that we needed that we didn’t find in that partner, that we didn’t recognize we needed to grow the relationship. The Gottman Institute, which publishes studies on relationships, talked about how the number one thing that keeps couples together is not date nights, holiday cruises, or walks on the beach, it’s their ability to learn how to argue, the ability to turn an argument into a discussion. Fighting and arguing push you apart, but discussion and debate bring you closer. In Grhastha we will examine how to know if you’re in love (Rule 3), how to learn and grow with your partner (Rule 4), and how to set priorities and manage personal time and space within your relationship (Rule 5). Researchers from the German Center of Gerontology analyzed data from more than 2,500 participants in a German aging survey. They found that as time went on, people became happier with their single status, and their relationship status became less relevant to them. DePaulo writes that over time, single life gets better and better, and for individuals as they age, satisfaction with their single lives continues to rise. We tend to oversimplify love, thinking of it as just chemistry and compatibility. Romance and attraction are indeed the initial connection points, but I define the deepest love as when you like someone’s personality, respect their values, and help them toward their goals in a long-term, committed relationship. You may feel this way about your friends, and I hope you do, but I am talking about maintaining these qualities when you live with someone, see them every single day, and are at their side for their greatest joys, biggest disappointments, and all the mundanity and intensity of daily life.But Jay Shetty points, and wonderfully so, how love is like a flower, which both sides, as well as yourself in your own free time, have to water to grow, and nurture, and how there's different kinds of love. I love how much importance is placed on finding your own dharma(purpose) and the self love as well as communication with our partner, as well as everyone else in our lives.

Kāds teiks, ka šī grāmata ir mūsdienu "pop'kultūras" ilustrējošs piemērs - un tomēr, tā (šī) ir tieši tāda pasaule, kādā dzīvojam. Steidzīgā. Krāsu, emociju, notikumu pārsātinātā. Nebeidzamu vajadzību un nesasniedzamu priekšstatu karuselis! The fourth ashram, Sannyasa, is the epitome of love—when we’re extending our love to every person and every moment of our life. In this stage our love becomes boundless. We realize we can experience love at any time with anyone. We learn how to love again and again (Rule 8). We strive for this perfection, but we never achieve it. The Vedas describe four stages of life, and these are the classrooms in which we’ll learn the rules of love so that we can recognize it and make the most of it when it comes our way,” Shetty explains. “After we learn the lessons of one level, we move to the next.”

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The storybook version of love I displayed for Radhi wasn’t the love that would sustain our relationship. Fairy tales, films, songs, and myths don’t tell us how to practice love every day. That requires learning what love means for the two of us as individuals and unlearning what we thought it meant. That’s why I’m sharing my imperfect story. I don’t know everything, and I don’t have everything figured out. Radhi has taught me so much about love, and I continue to learn with her. I’m sharing all this book’s advice with you knowing how much I could have used it myself and will use it in the future. Love is not about staging the perfect proposal or creating a perfect relationship. It’s about learning to navigate the imperfections that are intrinsic to ourselves, our partners, and life itself. I hope this book helps you do just that. We can all agree that no one wants to be lonely. In fact, many people would rather stay in an unhappy relationship than be single. If you type the phrase Will I ever… into a search engine, it predicts that the next words you will enter are find love, because Will I ever find love is the most popular question people ask about their futures. As DePaulo says, “One of our challenges culturally is that we don’t tell positive affirming stories about people who are single.” Whether you look at movies, music, or TV shows, usually, even though people in relationships are struggling, it’s highlighted when someone’s alone. 2. Chemistry starts a relationship, but character makes it last. At first, 8 rules of love may seem like just another one of the boring, repetitive self-help books that's gonna try and teach us about love and instead be full of author's plugins, repetitive advice we've all heard that doesn't work and just fall short. You forget what you've read a day or two after. This is so far from that. But I would hate to express my love for this book and how great it is, with comparing it to others, and moreso because of how in its own league it is.

That's one thing. The other thing yg aku syukuri adalah: Syemmi ngasih aku banyak "gift" yg selama ini aku dapatkan dari orangtuaku. Al aplicar estas ocho reglas del amor de Jay Shetty aprenderemos a amar a nuestra pareja, al mundo y también a nosotros mismos A lot of studies and research have gone into why being alone, being confident, and being single is not only better for you, but also better for your future partner. Professor and clinical psychologist Bella DePaulo says, “It’s a broad misconception that single people are to blame for the high levels of loneliness reported internationally.” In fact, studies show that overall, the longer people are single in life, the happier they become.He really relies on the fact that he was a monk, is a husband, and a coach to whoever for the reader to trust him. I am a PhD, I've been a girlfriend, and I coach people. Does that automatically mean you should trust me???? I actually don't trust him one bit. I know he's only gonna try to sell me his next book, his meditation app, his coaching services, or his podcast, whatever snake oil he's got cooking. der Autor war mal ein Mönch und verusucht alles mit den uralten Weisheiten zu erklären. Es fängt an mit unnötigen namedropping aus dem Hinduismus als würden mich die 10.000 Fremdwörter interessieren, die ich sowieso wieder nach 2 Sekunden vergessen (einfach nur um zu zeigen, dass er tatsächlich mit 3 Jahren als Mönch seine Religion kennt) und geht weiter indem er so tut als wäre die Religion ein Autoritätsargument. Im Sinne, es müsse Stimmen wenn es vor 3000 Jahren geschrieben wurde.