Dame Products 83586: Sex Pillo Indigo

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The good news is, there's no one way you "should" go down on someone — but there are important steps. Three sex experts laid out how to best perform cunnilingus, from communication to foreplay. Let's talk about oral sex, baby My partner and I use Pillo every time we're at my place. It's just as mind-blowing an addition to bedroom activities as a sex toy, in my opinion, and there's no motor to be found. If you're shy about receiving, you can try different ways to get comfortable, like turning the lights off. Pillo is also immensely helpful for tribbing, the sexual act of rubbing vulvas together or rubbing the vulva on another body part, like a thigh. We've used it for a missionary-style position, and also for a scissoring-style tribbing (arranging ourselves like, well, colliding scissors).

Another downside is that Pillo only comes in one color, indigo. It happens to clash with just about everything in my cream and mauve decor. While Dame touts Pillo as a "master of disguise" that "blends right into your bedroom," I don't find that to be the case for me. That's not a total loss — I'll live, and continue to use Pillo as it's so much fun — but I'll be holding out for more neutral colors.Great sex is all about hitting the right angles, but finding them can take some experimentation. That’s why a sex pillow is game-changing: These cushions are designed to support and direct the body, opening you up to a wider range of feel-good positions. We spoke to experts to figure out how to shop for sex pillows—and which ones will set you up for success. What should you consider when shopping for a sex pillow? Unlike the Nugget, there are options out there made specifically for sex. For a sleek yet sturdy option, I tried out Pillo by Dame, a sex toy brand expanding into other sensual products. Pillo is soft yet firm and built to support you and your partner in different angles. Many people with vulvas worry about their looks, smell, taste, or that they take too long to orgasm, said Dr. Laurie Mintz , PhD, sexpert at sex toy brand LELO , and author of Becoming Cliterate and A Tired Woman’s Guide to Passionate Sex. In terms of the former three, Mintz attributes that to false perceptions by the media and corporations attempting to sell products that make the vagina smell like flowers. (Vagina smells like vagina, okay?) Don't jump straight to cunnilingus, said Mintz, as it's important to build arousal with other activities first, like making out or breast play. You can warm up by caressing and kissing your partner on the way down. Kissing inner thighs before moving to the actual genitals is also a good move, said Engle. During and after the act

If either partner is concerned about cleanliness, take a shower beforehand — maybe even together. Then again, Mintz said, the giver may love the smell of sweat after a hard workout. This is why you communicate about your preferences!Sexpert Kenneth Play told Men's Health to start with the flat of your tongue, as it covers more surface area. If they're into receiving pleasure right on their clit, though, they may love when you use the tip of your tongue. Don't be afraid to communicate during the act, either. Neither givers nor receivers can read each others' minds. If your partner moving their tongue ever so slightly to the left will get you off, say so! Oral sex education

Consider whether using protection is best for you. STIs can be transmitted through oral sex, so you're not in the clear just because penetration isn't involved. If you and your partner already share bodily fluids (are "fluid bonded") and don't use protection, then you can skip it.

But those who are inexperienced or perhaps uneducated may ask: How should someone perform cunnilingus? With Pillo, we spend less time getting into position, and more time having fun in said position. I have no doubt that the more my partner and I use Pillo, the more variety we'll discover. King explained how sex pillows can help with a variety of positions, including missionary, from behind, and rider-on-top. During the former two, the pillow props up the receiving partner's hips and pelvis to more easily achieve deep penetration. For the latter, a pillow can help the rider bounce more comfortably. Finally, I've also found that the Pillo cover tends to catch stray hairs and needs lint-rolling in between washes and uses. This isn't a big deal and only takes a few seconds, but it's something I need to remember before a session with my partner. It's probably due to the nature of cotton, as I have cotton clothes that need lint-rolling as well. Though you can use it to nap according to Dame, Pillo doesn't feel like a moldable down pillow. It's firmer and actually made of the same material as the Nugget: polyurethane foam. Further, it's slanted like a ramp. It's 18 inches wide, 15 inches long, and 7 inches at its tallest height. My partner and I can lie on the widest part of Pillo no problem.