So, you've heard about "pegging" and want to try it for yourself. Pegging is usually referred to a cis woman penetrating a cis man with a strap-on dildo. You've come to the right place; here's how to have strap-on sex as a straight couple. Of course, there's nothing wrong with being queer or submissive, but these ingrained beliefs can take time to unlearn. Before having strap-on anal sex, reflect on and explore your relationship to power and penetration, advised Nicoletta Heidegger, MA, MEd, licensed MFT and sex therapist and host of the Sluts & Scholars podcast. Why peg? Heidegger also recommends having an aftercare plan, both for if it goes well and if it brings up feelings. Trying something new in bed can do this, especially if you're being penetrated for the first time. Anal sex can feel great, explained Heidegger. There are lots of nerve-endings in one's anus, especially if you have a prostate. Being “good, giving, and game” for anything—within reason—doesn’t obligate us to do whatever our partners want. But if something is truly central to your partner’s erotic self, then being GGG—being a loving partner—means making an accommodation, FEMDOM, finding a work-around that allows your partner to express this aspect of their sexuality without requiring you to do something you find tedious, a turnoff, or traumatizing. That accommodation can be something as simple as cheerfully allowing your partner to indulge their kinks with porn or during solo play (emphasis on the word cheerfully) to something as challenging as allowing your partner to explore their kinks with others, e.g., play partners or professionals.

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Talk about your boundaries, said Heidegger. Mashable has a guide to setting sexual boundaries to help out with that, too. You can watch some classes, as well; Heidegger recommends how-to videos at B Vibe and sex educator Luna Matatas’s classes.Decide if you want to clean out the anus (more about that in our guide to preparing for anal sex) or make dietary changes to help with your digestion ( @bottomsdigest is a fun TikTok account that discusses this). Be sure to thoroughly clean any toys (and hands) before and after use.

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Got a question about sex that you're too embarrassed to ask? In the online sex misinformation crisis, getting accurate and reliable answers about sex is more difficult than ever before. Mashable is here to answer all your burning sex questions — from the weird and wonderful, to the graphic and gory. Think of us as your sexy agony aunts. Pegging "doesn't magically change your sexuality," said nightlife entrepreneur and former professional dominatrix Venus Cuffs. "The goal is to have fun with each other and safety, preparation, and communication allow you to focus on pleasure and enjoying yourselves together."Sex is much more than P-in-V, and doesn't have to adhere to these stereotypical power dynamics. Sex and desires also don't determine one's sexual orientation. Start small. "When you're preparing for your first anal insertion, start your preparations with smaller butt plugs, beads, and dildos before you try to go for the desired size of your insertable," said Cuffs. You or your partner's fingers can also serve as preparation for something bigger, or even thrusting/grinding can get you used to the feeling of something there.